Re-posted blog from Tue, 15 Feb 2011
Last week I watched the Biggest Loser on television. It is a show where people team up together to lose weight--a great idea and it works. One man lost 100 pounds in 6 weeks. Unbelievable.
During the temptation phase of the show one of the contestants, facing a roomful of Valentine's chocolates turned around immediately upon one glance at the red and pink room--repulsed. The chocolates were not temptation. Why?
"I hate Valentine's Day! she exclaimed vehemently. Later she elaborated frowning, "My dad calls me every Valentine’s Day...I hate it!" So the biggest loser wasn't talking about her weight issue, but her love issue. She felt unloved and sorely Losing at Love on the Biggest Love day of the year.
Too bad to see it that way.
There are many people to share our hearts with in life and many wonderful people to love whether family or friends, big or small. I felt bad that she scoffed at her Dad's call on the special day of they year she regarded more as a Romeo, Juliet affair. It's not unusual thinking. It can cause discontent though. It can rob peace and steal joy on a wonderful day of the year. Expectations about what that day should, could be.
Whatever happened to the great feelings we had as kids passing out our Valentine cartoon or Disney cut outs for each person in our classroom? And then making a cut out for parents, grandparents, aunts, cousins, and even our brothers. Why don't we carry our childhood thoughts and traditions into adulthood? Thinking of it more as a Heart Day for those who have touched our heart.
For the record, Loving people in life, finding a special someone to love and be loved, has little to do with our weight. There are plenty of overweight people, now 70% of America, who have love in their lives. People who struggle to keep weight on can feel "too thin"-- a feeling which may lead them to feeling unattractive also.
How many people have the perfect weight and meet someone at their perfect weight? Some for sure. Most, not. It is more the way we feel about ourselves, that we consider ourselves worth knowing and able to provide fun and feeling, passion and purpose in life that sets the groundwork for a good relationship. That enable us to reach out and introduce ourselves or catch someone's eye (or im) and give them the go ahead to move towards us.
Valentine's Day can be loaded married or single in a relationship or not. When I worked in the hospital, some married nurses faces paled when one or two lucky stars received a dozen red roses from their hubbies.
I do hope next year the young woman will have someone special to share a Valentine's meal with and even a small chocolate. If she doesn't have a boyfriend yet, hopefully it can be with her dad. I sure enjoyed Valentine's dinner with my Dad at a great fish restaurant! Sunday my boyfriend and I made cookies. And today, I'm dropping off a Valentine cookie to my hardworking nephew...who is currently single and loving it.
"For now we see through a glass darkly a poor reflection. Then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part,; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And now remain these three: Faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love." I Corinthians 13:12