• Dee Aspin

Sexual Healing and Helps



Today is the ending to the Speedboat section. When the boat is running on fumes,

when the fun is displaced by fear, or loss, shame or grief, numbness or rage...sexual engagement outside of a committed love can bring an emptiness and despair. God knows. He knows who we are and why we do what we do. Or did what we did.


God is a Healer

I bless the holy name of God with all my heart. Yes, I will bless the Lord and not forget the glorious things he does for me. He forgives all my sins. He heals me. He ransoms me from hell. He surrounds me with loving kindness and tender mercies. He fills my life with good things! My youth is renewed like the eagle’s! (Psalm 103:2–3 TLB)


  • Jesus rescues us from darkness and guides us into the kingdom of light and hope. (Colossians 1:12-14)

  • ·He binds open, festering wounds from our past. (Psalm 147:3)

  • · Jesus gripped Peter’s hand, rescuing him from sinking. The mental weights of fear and doubt, Peter’s faith walk-on-water as he tried to follow Christ. When we call for help Jesus reaches out His hand—immediately.

  • · He forgives and directs. He will provide a path to safety and safe people. He directs, “Go and sin no more.”



Resources for Healing


Celebrate Recovery Programs are Biblically-based, recovery programs at churches in many cities for sexual addictions, co-dependents and more. Help is taught in building fences, or boundaries around lives. Resources are available and tools for freedom from damaged emotions. Just google, “celebrate recovery program.” In addition, see below.


American Association of Christian Counselors ~ https://www.aacc.net/


XXX Church ~ https://www.xxxchurch.com/ Help for couples, men, women, spouses, students / support groups, workshops, accountability software for monitoring, blocking content


Josh McDowell Ministry: Just 1 Click Away ~ https://www.josh.org/resources/just-1-click-away/

Beggar's Daughter ~ https://beggarsdaughter.com/ ministry dedicated to walking with women addicted to pornography


Internet Accountability and Software Programs

Covenant Eyes ~ http://www.covenanteyes.com/personal/

K9 Web Protection ~ http://www1.k9webprotection.com/

Net Nanny ~ https://www.netnanny.com/


If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. (1 John 1:9)


Blessed is the man whose sin the Lord does not count against him and in whose spirit is no deceit. (Psalm 32:2)



Secrets are out. Back at the dock, one or both of you have new accountability in place, through a group, mentor, friends or pastor.

Feelings come and feelings go and feelings are deceiving, My warrant is the Word of God, it alone is worth believing… ~ Martin Luther



You must each decide between the rowboat and the dance on the dock…

  • Is God leading you to begin again, this time in the rowboat, with Jesus centering you both?

  • Are one or both of you leaning toward joining others at the dance on the dock until you regain your bearings?


The Rocky Boat settles. The couple is headed the same direction with the same intention—to stay sexually pure and honor God by honoring one another’s bodies as belonging to God first.




Fill in the following verse below: 1 Corinthians 6:19-20


Do you not ____________ that your ____________ is a

__________________ of the _______________________________, who is

_______________ whom you have received from ______________?

You are not _________________; you were bought at a ____________.

Therefore _______________ God with your ______________.

The water is tranquil. Hands to oars, each is ready to move forward—the rowing begins.


The Dating Dock is available at Amazon as an ebook or paperback.



© 2018 Dee Aspin.